Last week, one of my oldest friends told me he feels “behind” in life. He’s 27, he’s switching jobs more often than he’d like to, and he feels strongly that he is failing at the game of life. I’m not going to tell him how to feel. But I would like to remind him a few things.
First of all, stop treating your life as a finished project. Over my career, I wrote a LOT about successful entrepreneurs. I’ve listened to countless hours of interviews and talks by some of the very best. I’ve interviewed a couple dozen myself. If…
Naval Ravikant may not be a billionaire, but he is successful by my standards. Why? Because, at 47, he smiles more than my 7-year-old brother.
Naval has had a pretty busy life. He’s the founder and ex-CEO of AngelList, reportedly a $100+ million company. He has invested early stage in over 200 companies, including Uber and Twitter. And yet, after an intense career in Palo Alto, the man remains a beacon of inner peace and common sense.
One question he asked completely annihilated my understanding of mindfulness:
“If you’re so smart and capable, why can’t you figure out how to…
Writing is what pays my bills and fuels my dreams. Which means that I have to treat it as a job, or at least a competitive sport. Here are a few realizations I had after 2 years, 200+ articles and a couple million views.
Last night, I watched a discussion of 12 Nobel Prize laureates. One of them is Kazuo Ishiguro, a Nobel Prize laureate in Literature. Here’s what he said about his work:
“The surfaces of my novels are kind of… deceptive. People thin I keep moving on. Truth is, I keep writing the same thing over and over…
I sit on my butt for a living. Sometimes, my sitting involves pressing buttons on the keyboard. At other times, sitting means reading the screen or listening to audio. Many times, I simply sit and stare through the window. There’s also sitting for transportation and entertainment.
At a recent point in my life, I started feeling much older than I should. I felt some weird pressure built up in my right leg. I couldn’t ignore my scoliosis during a morning shower anymore. My energy levels were pathetic. At 25, my youth was waving goodbye.
Naturally, I figured exercise was the…
Here’s a story. Jessica gets out of her SUV. She walks up to a local construction worker. She takes his drill, borrows his helmet, and asks her boyfriend to take a picture. She then gives the stuff back and gets back into the SUV. 13 minutes later, she posts the picture under hashtags #community #communitysunday #helpingpeople #gowomen. It’s been documented, people.
Yep, shallow people are often skilled at masking themselves as thought leaders, social justice perpetuators or devoted servants.
I’m not talking about intelligence. I’m talking about substance. The underlying value system that truly defines what a person is like.
That last piece of research Facebook suppressed regarding teen mental health seems to have broken the camel’s back. Multiple user surveys clearly showed that teenagers blame Instagram for their anxiety and depression problems. Facebook chose not to disclose these findings.
“Some 13% of UK teenagers and 6% of US users surveyed traced a desire to kill themselves to Instagram.” (source)
This isn’t the first time Facebook’s under scrutiny for its ethics. As the pandemic death toll overtakes that of 1918 influenza, Facebook is still loose with massive surges of anti-vaxxer posts and comments on the platform. …
It’s funny how life changes. Things that seem like matters of life and death today can look absolutely trivial a month later. Here are my resolutions.
I dreamt of owning a shiny new coupe for as long as I can remember. I thought it would solve all of my problems.
Well, last year I had the opportunity to buy one. It didn’t go through. Then the second lockdown hit. And then I realized that the piece of metal in the parking lot wouldn’t have changed a thing.
Tim Denning just wrote an amazing article about the power of loneliness. He…
11 years. That’s how much older men effectively become when they restrict themselves to 5 hours of sleep, in terms of testosterone levels.
In an evolutionary sense, laying unconscious for 8 hours a day must have been a disadvantage. Exposed to predators, not hunting or gathering — what’s the use in that? Neuroscientist Matthew Walker argues that the absurdity of sleep just shows how crucial it must be to our health:
“When you think about sleep as a state, it makes no sense. […] It’s almost idiotic. …
In my life, I’ve been both extremely lazy and extremely stressed out. Both of these conditions have one common symptom: low productivity.
Contrary to a popular belief, I think laziness does exist. I just don’t think it’s a bad thing. Our entire economy is built on making things more convenient for people. Automobiles and smartphones have enabled us to take care of virtually every human need while sitting on our butts, and we love it.
Burnout, on the other hand, is a silent killer. It disguises itself as laziness. …
Let’s be clear: I’m the dumb one.
As a copywriter, I found myself in rooms with people who appeared, sounded and were vastly more intelligent than I am. Almost always, I felt like an imposter. But I admired them, and soaked their many wisdoms.
Has this experience helped me? Certainly. Having absorbed life stories of radically different people, I can better craft my own. But it’s not the holy grail of achievement we consider it to be.
Let me explain.
If you’re feeling lonely, lazy, useless, guilty or untalented: congratulations. …