If you have the option, don't. Although narcissists don't have much regard for the emotions of others, they are very sensitive to them. From my experience they're usually at least semi-aware that their behavior is wrong, and they're constantly under the threat of being "exposed." So even when you take tiny steps to distance yourself from them they usually sense it instantly and curl into a ball quietly, until they feel like the storm has passed, after which they slowly build up their own momentum of narcissistic bullshi*t once again. I've seen it with my own eyes, works wonders. (keep in mind they might initially become more aggressive, to try and provoke you. Keep idling)

If you must, professionals suggest grey rocking them. Basically you treat them like the annoying clingy neighbor who always takes way too much time trying to chat you up or is always asking for favors. Show little emotion and interest, say you have to go because you're late somewhere, say you're busy, ignore every other text, respond to four words with two, etc. Again, narcs will instantly sense this dynamic and run away, because it's the opposite of where they thrive (eliciting strong emotions, being on everyone's mind, satisfying their hunger for adoration.)

None of this will make them reconsider their choices but it can put them in their place real fast. Just expect a slight-to-moderate escalation at first (like getting snapped at)

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